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Makeovers! (and a question)

Just a quick note to get your thoughts on three things:The recent makeover of this blog, which I hope is a massive improvement over the quick-and-dirty format I’ve been using until now. What do you think? I’d like to get a discussion going, so please leave comments on the blog, in the Comments area at the bottom of this post, rather than emailing them to me.The recent makeover of myBookBaby Bookshop page. Truth to tell, that’s where I’d prefer people buy Paths to Wholeness, as I actually make a profit there. It’s at: Paths to Wholeness BookShop Page What do you think? I have very little ability to directly customize it, but I can pass your responses and suggestions on to BookBaby. Again, please leave comments on the blog, in the Comments area at the bottom of this post, rather than emailing me directly.How can I best encourage those of you who take the time to respond to my posts to leave comments on the blog instead of emailing me directly? I really appreciate the emails, as it’s som…

Change Your Life! (and help refugees in Thailand)

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INTRODUCING A FREE EBOOK:Change Your Life!
Experts Share Their Top Tips and Strategies for Reaching Your Highest Potential

This free ebook contains personal development tips from nearly 100 authors and course creators, including some of my own best advice.Change Your Life! is a part of theBetter You Bundles for Good promotion happening at the end of July. The free ebook includes a wide range of inner-oriented “being” tips and action-oriented “doing” tips. It’s a really interesting mix and I think you’ll enjoy it.  It’s also a portent of what’s to come in the Better You Bundles for Good package itself.Click here to download the book: Download the free ebookBetter You Bundles for Good will include the full-length courses and ebooks, worth thousands of dollars, for one low price, among them my own Paths to Wholeness: Fifty-Two Flower Mandalas. If you are serious about becoming your best self, you won’t want to miss seeing what this package offers. The Better You Bundle sale will last only…

The Gratitude Cure for (Almost) Everything

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Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul.
– Henry Ward BeecherDuring my recuperation from a brush with death, a high school friend sent me a letter. In it, he hypothesized that as a survivor of near-death, every moment for me must be exquisitely sweet, a precious gift, in ways he could not imagine.At first, he was mostly right. Despite the pain, my initial response was celebratory. But the celebration was relatively short-lived and bittersweet. As weeks became months and months became years, the glow gradually diminished. Yielding to the numerous problems that almost dying had also brought on, gratitude faded and a more troubled self re-emerged. Returning to that place of celebration has been a process.Grateful people are generally more satisfied with their lives and relationships, cope better with difficulties, and are more generous, empathetic, and self-accepting. But despite these many benefits, many of us have a hard time feeling gratitude.Often, early deprivati…

When Failure is an Option

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Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.
– F. Scott FitzgeraldIn our success-driven culture, there seems to be no end of helpful adages for dealing with failure. But “failure is not an option” is small comfort to those who believe they have already failed, “if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again” seldom encourages the already discouraged, and “we learn more from failure than from success” is scant consolation when we don’t see a silver lining in the cloud of our defeats.The problem with these guidelines is that the underlying concept of “failure” is flawed. Most of us hope we will achieve what we strive for and believe that when we don’t, we have failed. Striving for what we want is a natural part of our makeup, but attachment to the outcome of those strivings can imprison us.For a young client whose motto was “Number 2 is the first loser,” success meant being the best at anything he tried. The pressure of being Number 1 was constant and he lived in a nightmare of fear…